end of an era

thanks, gents. i will still be around to a certain degree.

nigel, i remember when that happened, and all the crud hit the fan at once for you it seemed. life dealt you an extremely hard hand. im glad you have come through and are in a good space with things.

the website for now is not going anywhere, so that resource will stay. getting rid of stuff has not really impacted me too bad so far... im being methodical and just focused on removal, not really looking too close at things. when need be, i shut down that part of my head and just click into automatic mode.

the offloading isnt so much a reaction to the split, but more from reconnecting with someone who reminded me what life could be. i will get nowhere in new zealand. house prices are insanity, and even saving the deposit is impossible.
i have $8000 in my savings account and need to add at least another zero to even think about having a deposit, and things get worse every single day in that respect, plus the interest rates are going up and up. i know its the same everywhere. new zealand has a lot of other draw backs as well. its just too expensive, and too far behind the rest of the world.

i still have a long way to go, but its a step in the right direction, and im doing much better. losing weight at a decent pace, saving like crazy and getting out on the bike every few weeks for more than just going to work. plus the knowledge i am not tied down by as much stuff feels good.

my ex was a hardcore collector... im talking hundreds of thousands of things like mcdonalds toys, other fast food toys, other toys in general, books he hasnt read in 30 years... you name it. his son has no interest, his family has no interest, and he has no desire to really get rid of any of it. its not a healthy way to live.